Well, this movie exhibits different realistic lessons about love, some are shallow and trivial but in a subliminal manner if deciphered, it's a gold mine of deep love and life lessons that would probably wake your eyes open for the rest of your searching years for love.
There are many lessons from this movie but I picked those I only love discussing.
Well, arseholes, shall we start plucking the lessons out?
1.) Honesty is pivotal in every relationship.
Yeah, right. I have heard of that a couple of times. But how well do you digest this idea in a relationship? Being in a relationship, individuals should be able to express their real beings, their thoughts no matter how flawed they may be, their crooked philosophical beliefs that are breakfasts for lambasters and the careless fart from that constipated intestine that wakes everyone's being in the morning when it says hello to the olfactory gland (well, okay, I'm kidding on that gross example). Relationships should invite you to reveal the real you, the vulnerable you, the unlovable part of you which will later determine if the relationship and your significant other are the right one you're in/with depending on the way you're handled with. That is its essence, being loved despite the flaws.
And if you ask why do I always equate revealing one's real self with flaws, well my friend, our demons always come out the latest when all the coatings have been veneered.
2.) Love is a tug of war between destiny and choice
Love is a tug of war between destiny and choice, both of them stand an equal chance of winning, but it's what you choose between the two that prevails. In the movie, Summer had always shared how she never believed in marriages and relationships. Tom thought that he could be the one who could change Summer's belief and end up marrying him, but what turned out to be a disbelief in marriage was a girl who fell in love with someone she just met at the cafeteria and decided to marry him.Summer Finn met this guy and got married to him. He told Tom that it was destiny, that if she came there 10 minutes late, she would have done differently and have landed in a different place instead. Tom thought it was an utter bullshit, that Summer was toying with his feelings by playing with her crooked beliefs.
As for me, I have always imagined destiny as a red, silk string tied on our wrists. This string passes through solid objects, it is limitless and can extend up to an unimaginable length, it cannot be withered nor can never be cut. This has been always attached to us and is not conspicuous to our eyes. Its other end is attached somewhere, to someone who we will someday meet when the right time happens at the right place. This string slowly shortens its length as time ages us that we don't notice it slowly pulling us to situations that will lead us to the one!!! When you meet that person, you will feel an instant connection with him/her, something natural, like you have the feeling that you are where you are supposed to be. You fall in love and that's destiny.
But destiny is deceitful, you'll never know who the right person is for you, for you may always feel a very special feeling, an unexplainable feeling for someone that you may mistake as a phenomenon of meeting destiny or meeting the destined one for you. Some could not wait for that right person who's destined for them, some make their choice to choose a certain person their invisible red strings are not attached to.
You may think that it's sad, but it isn't actually. As I said, choice also stands an equal chance of winning, it's up to you if you will choose the power of choosing. When we choose someone else, that's the time that we tie an invisible red string to them, a string that has the same magic with the one tied on you and your destined one. The red string also grants the person you choose and your relationship with him/her the power to last forever. It's just that your string with the other person, the destined one for you, will never be severed, it will be with you forever.
Despite being with the person of your choice, since another string of you is attached to someone else destined for you, your paths together will still cross someday and you might feel discombobulated with the situation and your feelings because the nearer your proximity gets, the stronger the natural feelings you have for each other become, even if you just met each other or you've only seen each other once.
There will always be a magical feeling between the two of you that you will never be able to explain, a reason why even if you're with someone else of your choice, you will still feel something for someone, like something natural missing.
Bridging it to the movie, Summer settles for destiny instead of owning her choice to pick someone else crazy about her who has taken 500 days to get over her.
Well, how can I say that Summer does what destiny asks her to do? Tom in the end meets someone else better than Summer, the name of the girl chronologically follows the name of the season...She's "Autumn." How odd the chances are, right? Indubitably destiny's work. :)
3.) Do not fall in love with the idea of being in love
Some people are not actually in love, some are just in love with the idea of being in love. there is an actual difference between the two.
Tom, has developed a mildly delusional obsession about Summer. He has these ideas in his head about an ideal partner that he projected to Summer. He actually was in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.
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